History, non - cancer brain tumor removed 5 years ago, multi meds to function in life. Still has trouble with hearing complete speech, sometimes a word or two is missing. Married 26 years, we love each other dearly but when ever I try to discuss sex she closes off to me. When I offer other methods of being close to each other am treated like I am a pervert. Have been to all the doctors, been to counseling, I believe in my marriage vows and remember what if it was me whom had the medical problem. Never know when I return home from work if it will be like walking egg shells or if she will have a hug and I love you for me. Between the mood shifts, anti depressions, pain killers and other meds, I can't compete. Am the pillar of strength for the family but each day I feel more and more alone. I try to talk with my wife but get shut out and the few times she opens up if the subject becomes to personal she closes me out. What can I do, is this my life now for the next 30 years ……..|||Get into counseling. you both need to see the world from the other's perspective. You need to know exactly what this whole thing is making her feel and she needs to know that just because she had the medical problem, doesn't mean that it doesn't affect you.|||you need a support group for sure and counseling with someone who understands this type of situation…..go alone if she won't go with you;|||so pick a spring to drink but dont piss on it! I will ask Papa Tiger to take me away. Be sure He will, He cant resist. Here true bhakta - cries so loud and passionate that He cant refuse. Crazy in love, just like me. Dont **** up or you will be ******. Promise you….pick a spring and drink, **** for real not in brain. it is soo pathetic|||I have been where you are now . My husband was ill for 5 years before he died and I felt all alone . We stopped having any sexual relationship for the last five years of his life and it was really hard to deal with all the meds ,mood swings and ect…. Find someone to talk to , clergy, counselor just someone because you are both suffering and she may have guilty feelings and feel she is not a complete woman . This may be the reason for her intimacy issues . Find someone you can both talk to and it will help. Good luck.|||When my mother was injured in a car accident, her mood had changed severely because she could no longer operate independently. When a life changes it takes ones love to compensate for another even when the road gets tough. How did I get through it, I remembered a story in the Bible about a young woman named Ruth. She made a promise to her mother-in-law that despite everything around her, she was going to care for this woman.

Most women are very sexual creatures, no matter the age, this one refused to chase after men in her prime. After a lot of time and hard work in the fields, the tide had turned and she got what she needed because she did not desire it. This very thing worked for me as well.

I will tell you a little bit more, do as Jesus did and get away from it all whenever you feel the weight of the world on your shoulders. Go to the movies, go to the park, walk the dog, or to shows; her situation is not there to kill you. Now that God has her in his hands and he is watching how you will react. So plan on going on a vacation, and get a house sitter if she cannot move.

I sat in misery for a year and a half before I decided to dedicate myself to more than just her and my promise. Believe me, it will cheer you up too. Because when the heart lightens, so will the soul and that allows for a new level of understanding and socialbility.

Love others as you love yourself and speak regardless of their mood. A Thanks is more powerful than any curse. It adds years of good health to your life. I'm basically saying go outside and shout to the people that you love them. It works.

my cousin and his wife ran into some finicial shortages . the reason for this was his mother in law was terminal cancer .the credit card compant put account into collection. they violated the consumer laws of british colombia for this reason thet were ordered no telephone contact with my cousin . this was ignored by allied credit management of toronto . the issuing credit card company did restore the account ,removingallied from collecting. thet used the following forms of intimidation . anti jewish remarks , calling cousin stupid even though he graduated from uninversity at the age of 19 with a bachelors of education ,called him a liar and a drug addict , called the passing of his mother in law quote never happened. daughter is mentally challanged yet she was called stupid by agents mather , glendhill . documents forwarded to prove that they were liars mather glendhill ran to police dept . when they were caught in thier lies . we lost 7 generations in the camps . any help|||Document these, include the name of the persons calling and yes you have a good law suit. These tactics in US are totally illegal. The only way to get these kind of people is to hit them hard in the pocket book.

How can i overcome mild -moderate depression? Its not as bad as some people have it, i recently lost my dad to cancer 2 months ago, ive also put weight on due to comfort eating and now my mams making me lose my confidence in the way i look by telling me im fatter etc, i dont want to go down the anti depression tablet route. My boyfriend is there for me but it still doesnt stop it, any suggestions?|||really the only way you can over come deppression is therapy.you have suffered alot of mental trauma.a professional should be able to help you without having to take pills.|||I know you don't want to take tablets, but they really do help. I am on some at the moment, i thought that i could battle through on my own, but in the end i admitted defeat as things were only getting worse. It's not such a big deal these days, lots of people i know have taken them at some point, even if it's just for a short while. Please go to your doctor.|||I suffer from moderate depression (along with anxiety) myself. I've tried antidepressants not with much luck. I'm now trying a herbal supplement called Rhodiola Rosea which you can read about here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rhodiola_Ro…

It's a natural product which can help people with depression and anxiety. It's can take a month or so to notice a difference. I'm only on my 2nd week of taking it so not noticed much yet. I bought them from simplysupplements co.uk they cost £5.49 for 2 packs.

I do think you should go to the Dr's though and see what they suggest, you shouldn't feel bad for taking anti depressants if they are needed, depression is a chemical imbalance and it needs a drug to get it balanced again and make you feel better|||http://it.youtube.com/watch?v=O1DHS3odp-…

dedicate to all friends of answers|||im sorry for your loss..it is hard to go through something like that and it makes a lot of people depressed. try to walk outside with some friends. fresh air always helps the mind and then you can lose weight at the same time. if you have a close friend or your boyfriend then always think of happy thoughts or funny things that make you laugh. you will probably never forget when your father died but it really does help when you laugh with your close friends.|||Several books you can try including Depression for Dummies and cog native therapy.

I've had this for 24 years there are ways round it . If you feel people are putting you down just remember their not perfect and no one has the right to make you feel bad about yourself.|||I think that if you have been diagnosed with depression you never really are completely free of it, but you learn to live with it, you can manage the bad days better! This is how I feel anyway. In my experience, the tablets helped, they enabled me to think clearer and to begin to sort things in my life. I was able to stop taking them without any problems, but your doctor will give you the best advice.

Again from my personal experience, if you can manage to loose a bit of weight it will lift you and give you a bit of confidence back. Perhaps having a word with your mam may help? There are loads of diet clubs available, eg weight watchers and slimming world. Ive done this and the diet is pretty easy.

You did not mention if you have had any counselling? If not I would suggest giving it a go? Loosing your dad to such a horrible disease is a big thing and it may help to discuss your feelings with someone who is not involved. You are still grieving and it is still recent. Time is a great healer so they say.

The best advice I could give is to take one day at a time, tackle each problem one at a time. You will get there in the end, believe in yourself and remember how special you are. Focus on your strong points and what you do well.

Hello. I know its a difficult question but I have nobody next to me to ask. I have an alcoholic father, I have cancer, and too little money. I am 23 , male. Sometimes this is so much stress especially since my father is not supportive and drinks and is being mean to me, that I want to hurt myself. Its like I need to experience physical pain so that emotional pain doesn't get in the way, if you know what I mean. Its just hurting so bad emotionally, and anti-depressants aren't helping. Can you give me advice how to deal with this urge to hit myself or do something else harmful?|||Whoa! Let's take this one step at a time. You are 23, basically no $, and a bummer of a dad, now you have cancer? You do have a load that you need to dump quick.

Ok, if you live in the USA, get over to the local Social Services [Welfare] and talk to someone, now. You need to get away from the living situation to somewhere you can deal with your life with help from the outside in a peaceful manner.

[if you have a religious preference…please see someone to tell this to…perhaps someone might help somehow.]

You should be able to get some help from 'welfare' at your age and in your condition. Hurting yourself is not good. You haven't caused your father to be the way he is! That's his doing, all by himself. Your hurting yourself is not correction the issues. Has one wound helped fix your dad's problem? If you harm yourself, is it going to help you financially?

If you are taking anti-depressant meds., then you need to understand that the meds. alone are not going to help you. If you are still 'angry' perhaps the therapist or Dr. is not getting the correct meds. or providing you with good enough counseling. Ask for another therapist or psychologist.

These negative emotions and confusions are not helping you at all physically nor mentally! You need to get some help in all of your problems…and it is available, just ask.

Please check out alllll of the available cancer treatment programs…there has to be ONE that can help you with this. Welfare services should recommend somewhere or some one that can help with medical finanaces. That is enough to be concerned about w/out having to deal with your parent. You haven't mentioned your mother…so I won't pry. Best of luck to you!!|||hey.deep breathing works for me.or long walks w/ my dog.relate to you wanting the physical pain to try to lessen the emotional pain.it sucks,i do the same.would you be able to get a therapist?its helped an awful lot.well good luck.take care.ever wanna shoot the **** ya know where i'm at.:}|||take up a high energy hobby, like running or get a heavy bag and go to town on it .|||See stress, and self harm, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 7, and 16|||Forget about your father, he has his own issues and you cannot change this. As for the anit depressants, they do more harm than good. You have cancer, and need to start eating right. If you have never prayed, or known God.. then get to know him. I would start reading the New Testament first.. and get a sweetness and peace that only Christ can give you right now. I would suggest Yoga and meditation, deep breathing. You are loved …. and there are no simple answers, but fight for your life for now….so do not harm yourself. Love yourself and give that love to yourself.

I'm an RN who works 12 hour night shifts. I'm so tired when I come home I just want to sleep. I'm on antidepressants and anti-anxiety medicine. I have been for 20 years. I have a 17 yo daughter and am separated from my husband of 3 years. My first husband died 15 years ago. I lost my dad the same year. 2 years later a sister.a few months ago a brother. all of cancer.I was there with all of them when they died. Im hurting I'm tired and all I want to do is cry. How can I keep up with housework and my job? My daughter is pregnant and isnt allowed to lift. she's 2 months and on partial bedrest. I really want to be able to keep up. I've missed so much work this year that 1 more day and I'll be fired. My missed days start to come off in Feb. I"ve been hospitalized 3 times in the last year for dehydration, migraine, and hypertensive crisis. Help!! Where can I find the energy to be all I have to be? Im tired and all I want to do is sleep and cry. Please help. I cant keep up!!!!How do u do it?|||1st your a professional get down to basics, your body is telling you something maybe a leave is instore. How ever when I pulled 16 hour shifts I would drink the power drinks out. I worked3rd and had to work over to help cover days. Sounds like you have to much on your plate, I don't know you but I'm honestly concerned for you. I wish I could hop to where ever you are and help out. Is there a neighbor or relative to help take some of the load off of you?Please just eat well take Vitamin supplements and get as much rest as you can squeeze in, make it your time and no interruptions! Best wishes and you will be in my prayers.|||first you need to prioritize, let a few chores go and get your rest. if your in the hospital from working to hard you will not be anybody any good. The bible says cast your care on Jesus and he will bring you rest. He will give you a dose of his Holy spirit to live in you and give you supernatural power to keep up. You need this spirit. John 3. And I know money is tight but I myself will not 12 hr days, I will make less and do 8 only, I am not a slave! But I know the cost of living is high. So go to the Lord in prayer and ask him for rest and he will get you a better job!|||after 20 years of trying to keep up, you need to sleep and cry.

i know you are worried about your job so you don't want to take any days off. but here is what i think:

from reading your story, i know that i would just take a break. i tell people all the time, there is nothing wrong with breaking from everything as long as you understand that it may mean starting all over again (giving up a job, house, car, etc) but with the energy you can regain, you'll be up to the task.|||Perhaps if you see a counselor, join a grief support group, or get involved in a church or somewhere that a network of people can love you and help you through this. It sounds like a lot to bear right now. You could learn relaxation with a counselor. Allow yourself to cry and grieve. I am reading "A Grace Disguised" by Jerry Sittser which deals with grief and loss as I have recently experienced the death of my 16 year old 7 weeks ago. If you find you are more cut off from relationships, please join a support group/church/ whatever to get the emotional support you need. Ask God to help. He's there for me - and will be for you.

Chocolate is a rich source of flavonoids and antioxidants which are supposed to help protect us form heart disease and cancer. It also triggers dopamine production that make syou feel happy. It does have to be high-cocoa dark choclate, though.

Just think how much the NHS would save in expensive heart medication and anti-depressants if they gave all a nice bar of Green and Black's Dark every day.|||Unless ,like me, you are elderly, then prescription charges would rule out this idea.

Impractical, but I like the principle.

So, a star for you friend.|||as medicinal purposes for PMT i think it's a great idea!! lol|||No No No, you would then complain because you were putting on weight.|||Definitely.|||no choclate bad for you dont want to get fat now

will we be the ones they will stick in the 800 concentration camps (also Halliburton just got a rush order for more camps at 300 million plus dollars-why do we need all these camps (see this here)

http://www.projectcensored.org/censored_…

Isn't 800 enough?) A woman I met was brutalized for posting a sign about an upcoming anti-Bush rally and got three months in jail. http://worldcantwait.net/index.php?optio…

She was a cancer patient in her 50's and was beaten by 4 policeman. A friend was recently harassed and intimidated protesting peaceably with a sign ..see the scenario here

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…

What is happening to our civil rights..will you continue protesting etc if they start a slid to a police state and taking away our rights..your opinion is needed.|||as you can see by the answer of the poster wishing for your death for protesting, our country is in serious decline and the intelligence level has declined when people don't realize the words of founder father, Ben Franklin that they that give up essential rights for a little safety deserve neither."..when they don't realize if one american's rights are violated, all my soon follow.

Obviously people do not take the time to read and really reflect upon what is happening when a 50 year old cancer patient is given 3 months in jail for posting a sign… Americans have always criticized presidents but now it is a crime deserving being beaten and jailed and now according to the previous poster a crime worthy of death and torture. When one sees the basic decency of our values decline to the point where people not only fail to do not do unto others but actively hate and seek their demise, it is a sad reflection of a society got down the wrong road. I applaud you, your friend and the cancer patient's courage in speaking out against madness and corruption. I do not feel people should give up this right until it becomes actively dangerous to protest which likely will come in my lifetime. I think all who challenge the coming world order will go to these camps. If people have to witness other Americans blood being shed for exercising their civil rights, they will regret wishing it even upon them even if they are reps and those being oppressed and harmed are democrats..at least I hope they will care if they are the Christians they clam they are.|||as well.great resolve and courage. I left elaborations to your comments above in additional details that I hope people will read. I am shocked at how few care and how many more than willing to give up rights for safety. Thanks for your answer and some of the others, Report It
|||I don't protest, I have better things to do, Like Support our Troops!|||No I will not stop.|||Protesters are morons anyway. I hope that's who they're building the camps for.|||your rights are being reduced everyday, to protect you from the evil terrorist.

who's going to protect you from your protector?|||You should realize, now more than ever, how important it is to have a military in this country. Without soldiers who defend freedom, fight for freedom, and even die for freedom, there IS no freedom. Believe me, there will be no police state as long as we have a standing military. The men and women of the U.S. Armed Forces will not stand for it. We fight for our country because we love freedom, and we won't allow anyone, not even our own government, to take it away.

You should also realize that the stories you listed have been slanted WAY to the left by the mainstream liberal media. Also, while you have the right to protest, you do NOT have the right to protest at any time in any place in whatever manner you choose, and you are not protected against private citizens who harass or criticize you — remember, they too have the right to freedom of speech.

In the case of the woman who was supposedly beaten by four policemen, she was posting a sign without permission (READ: illegally) and refused to stop when ordered to by police officers. When the officers attempted to arrest her she resisted and actually assaulted them. Cancer patient or not, she got what she deserved. The right to freedom of speech does not give you the right to commit an illegal act and to then assault the officers that come to arrest you. You break the law, you face the consequences, and you sure as heck DO NOT take a swing at police officers that are doing their jobs.

Protestors have a nasty habit of believing in and exercising "civil rights" that they don't have. Go ahead and protest to your heart's delight, but if the law requires you to have a permit to gather, you had better have one. And if the police tell you to move on because you're creating an unsafe situation, you had better do what they say. And if you're posting signs or flyers, you had better have the proper permission to do so. Don't cross the line from civil disobedience to criminal act.|||I don't lose my right to protest or speak up before I have filed a good number of aggressive grievances, and posted them everywhere legislators, mayors and political leaders are!

"who's going to protect you from your protector? "

The protectees will, united!

No Fear, No Intimidation|||we do not needs civil rights to protest

our common sense is good enough to tell us to protect

if some unfair judgments are shovel into our throat

harassment from the authority is expected in all protests

the police jobs is to keep public stability and protectors

jobs is to make noise to gains public awareness

some comfortation shd be consider as the risk in protesting|||I need some proof of what you are saying. I have been in law enforcement for 30 years and never witnessed anything like your saying. If a person had to be arrested with force it was because they resisted arrest. When you see more then one officer making the arrest its because a one on one arrest the officer is going to be hurt or the other person is going to be hurt, if two or more officers make the arrest it is less likely anyone will be hurt. I have traveled all over this country and other countries and by far this is the best country in the world. Its because of our freedoms you are allowed to say the things that you say without fear of punishment.

During world war two more restrictions were placed on the public then you have now, after the war everything returned to normal. You have more freedoms now then back in that time.|||DID YOU EVEN READ THESE ???

Detention camps for deportation. NOT village idiots.

A little old lady…4 cops to hold her down..What was she on PCP?

And yet another from yahoo answers

give me a break…this is the Internet. None of the above information came for a credible source

Intestinal problems. Simple cause and cure ignored ? why ?

Intestinal problems. Simple cause and cure ignored ? why ?

Intestinal problems. Simple cause and cure ignored ?

One test patient suffered intestinal problems for many years, a doctor confirmed his suspicion; an infection.

Problem is most other doctors had suggested I had a disease of unknown origin. Sometimes they call it IBS, sometimes Crohns. Some people develop a cancer, some develop other symptoms that resembe schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, and even MS. (these are symptoms of the problem)

Why is the medical system ignoring this simple cause of many diseases. Ulcers, the first scientest to suggest that it was caused by a bacteria was laughed at. Today most ulcers are treated via an anti-biotic.

Problem with lower intestinal infections, is that they are hard to address by taking pills.

Solution search "herbal treatments for parasites'.

(usually include garlic, fiber and propiotics)

http://www.abeautifuldifference.com/webd…|||ok crohns isnt being ignored they are trying to find out what causes it and how to cure it. and you dont get ulcers with crohns disease either it is an immflation of the smaller intestines!

He was very clever when we got married, he stipulated in our marriage contract that when we divorce I will walk out as if the marriage never took place. I am so deep in debt, my mother found out a month ago she has cancer, my father is an alcoholic. I have nothing, I started looking for a job today……what am I going to do with my life. Why after two weeks do I feel this way, I want to scream and cry, I have been on anti depressant, because of him, I went of them end of last year with dreadful withdrawals and no support from him, but why does he say he loves me and will do anything for me, he is not always abusive. Am I loosing my mind, is he really a bad person for doing it once to me. Its ease for evryone to say GET OUT.

I don't know, I know its wrong, we have had a hard marriage from the word go, there were always a third person involved, is this a sign to get out, I am terrified of making a choice, that will be best for my children, growing up with out a father. I am going mad!!|||What is best for your kids is not to be around two people who can not get along. If he is hurting you, take the kids and go to an abused woman's shelter. He won't know where you are. I'm sorry your parents are not doing well, but you might want to focus on helping your kids right now, as they depend on you. You know in your heart that is the right thing to do no matter how hard it is to leave him, staying might kill you.

Here is a link I found on google: http://www.abusedadultresourcecenter.com…|||YOu need a good lawyer. You have a contract that says "when" you divorce? As in, he knew it would happen? Or does the contract state that if you leave, you leave the marriage as if it never happened? I bet it doesn't say anything about if he abuses you as the cause of your leaving… This is where a good lawyer can help you out. Since you have children, there is no way for the marriage to end in the fashion he describes. True, you may not be entitled to property, etc., but he will have to pay child support, etc. This marriage existed, whether he likes it or not.|||By staying in this marriage you are hurting your kids as much as you are hurting yourself. Find a good shelter. They might be able to help you find a good attorney to help you with your case. The longer you stay in a bad relationship the worse it can get. Do yourself and you kids a favor. GET OUT NOW

I'm now 45 years old, I had full hystrctomy at the age of 27, I took premarin (hormones replacement) for 10 years. My doctor told me to stop due to some risks (cancer etc). I was perfectly fine for some years, but I have been severly depressed from last one year, and I am on on anti-depression medicines and I am also seeing psychiatrist

but my depression is increasing every day. Please help…|||Yes depression can occur even without being on the hormones. This could also be a side effect of the hysterectomy.

Ask your psychiatrist about maybe trying B Complex to see if that might be of some help to your depression issues.

Also, ask your primary care physician about seeing if there might be something going on with your thyroid. Sometimes depression can be a symptom of depression.