Men live 6 years less than women and are more likely to be victims of the 15 top causes of death. Prostate cancer is now the most common cancer.

Despite these facts all I see are campaigns for women%26#039;s health. Pink ribbons are everywhere I look.|||You%26#039;re wrong! There is so much talk about men%26#039;s prostate trouble and heart disease and colon cancer, as well as other types of cancer.

There%26#039;s a %26quot;Men%26#039;s Health%26quot; category right here in Y/A that%26#039;s very popular. The magazine %26quot;Men%26#039;s Health%26quot; is a huge seller.

I think men still don%26#039;t eat as healthy as women. For example, last Saturday night my husband and I went out to dinner. The men ordered steaks, and made fun of the other woman and myself when we ordered salmon. Why?? Men drink a lot more beer than women, and I think more men than women still smoke cigerettes, as well as pot. Mostly Viet Nam vets, who are now in their late 50%26#039;s.

That was a great question. It%26#039;ll be good conversation for our next dinner out! Give that man a star!!

Up your *** after you told him you have been peeing a lot lately? I went to my doctor yesterday and he told me to get undressed then preceded to stick one of is fingers up my ***. I asked him why i needed a finger up my *** to find out about my urinating and he said it could be linked to problems with my prostate. Is this true? By the i%26#039;m only 22 so i doubt i have prostate cancer|||Yes an enlarged prostrate can cause you too urinate more or keep you from urinating depending on the enlargement and there are men at your age that have had prostrate cancer. Age is never really a factor in something like that.|||Yes it%26#039;s normal, and although you probably don%26#039;t have prostate cancer, you could have an enlarged or inflamed prostate, so he was just examining you to rule those things out.|||you can have prostate problems at any age, not to mention that stds can cause swelling of the prostate, so the doctor was perfectly right to do a rectal exam, he was just being thorough.|||to check your prostrate yes but where both his hands on your shoulders when he checked this if so it wasnt his finger|||It%26#039;s called a digital rectal exam and is usually used to detect prostate cancer. It%26#039;s a perfectly legitimate exam for any man with unusual urinary symptoms.

http://www.webmd.com/prostate-cancer/gui…|||its probally an inflamed prostate, and trust me it could be far worse. in my degree they practise doing it on other students, unfortunatly im always sick on these days|||Did it feel good? Quit drinking so much beer and maybe you wont%26#039; pee as much|||Unfortunately, a rectal exam to palpate the prostate is often part of such an exam. No, you%26#039;re not likely to have prostate cancer; it typically affects men in their 70%26#039;s, although my father was diagnosed with it at 48 and died at 53.

Your physician was looking (or feeling) for a condition called prostatic hypertrophy or hyperplasia, which is simply an enlarged prostate and is usually a benign (harmless) condition. The normal prostate is about the size of a walnut; it can become enlarged up to the size of an orange and can cause blockage of urine. http://stb.msn.com/i/5C/52449F20FA515382…

Read about prostate enlargement at http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/prostat…|||You don%26#039;t have to have cancer to have an enlarged prostate. And you%26#039;re never too young to have problems there, even though it may be unusual. Your doc wasn%26#039;t goosing you for the thrill of it. It%26#039;s SOP for your complaint.

My dad had prostate cancer 6 years ago, which metastacized to his bones 1 1/2 years ago. His bone scans were getting better, but then 2 weeks ago, life fell apart. It%26#039;s very complicated, but first he had a stent placed in his heart, then 2 days later we learned his cancer metastacized to his skull. After a week of radiation, he is weak and confused. My brother and I cannot manage his medications (he%26#039;s also diabetic). Friday afternoon, my dad fell, then at about 9pm, he asked my brother to take him to the hospital, where he suffered a mild heart attack in the night.

They need to do surgery to fix the heart, but if they do, he will bleed into his brain, causing a %26quot;vegetative%26quot; state. The doctor recommends we make him comfortable and let the end come, which I can see the wisdom in that.

I%26#039;ve placed my dad in God%26#039;s hands. I know that a lifetime is but a moment in eternity, and that I will see him soon, if he goes. But I am still praying for a miracle. Thank you so much.|||May God%26#039;s will be done and God be glorified.|||I will pray for him and God bless you and your father….

I hope he feels better.|||I will Pray for him …and you.|||Prayer just went up for your dad and for you and your brother. God Bless You.|||I will definitely be praying for your dad and you and your brother!! It is so hard to go through such a terrible illness and all that he has been through!! The Lord is with him!! I pray that the Lord%26#039;s will be done and if He is ready for him to come on home that he won%26#039;t suffer but will go peacefully!!! Hang in there and know the Lord is with you too!!! Praying!!!|||Believe in One GOD, and you will see miracle as GOD answer prayers those who do not associate partner with him. First thing try to remember that you have done good or not done anything in the past just for the sake of GOD alone. May Allah Almighty bless you.|||Its great that you have placed your dad in God%26#039;s hands. I will pray for his recovery. And I will pray for your family. Keep me in touch with updates on your dad. Please feel free to email me. God bless!|||if he blives dat he will b healed dan all things r possible but if his given up,,,,n doubts ,,,,dan u%26#039;ve got 2 bring him face 2 face wid FAITH|||Yes!|||I pray for you. Is your dad a Christian? If not, I hope you won%26#039;t hesitate to share the Truth with him one last time.

If he lives or dies, remember that God has a plan and will take care of you. God bless you, your family, and especially your dad.

I can relate to you because a few months ago my dad also had cancer - a tumor in his knee. Praise the Lord, we think that it%26#039;s all gone now. :-)|||I am not Christian and therefore will not presume to offer a prayer you have not asked me for, but I just wanted to say that you have my sympathy and I hope that your father%26#039;s passing is as peaceful as possible.

Take care of yourself — be sure to eat enough, sleep enough, etc. I just went through losing my own mother to cancer, and trust me, you%26#039;ll need to make sure that you%26#039;re looking after your own health.

EDITED TO ADD: American Rebel — well said. I would have been happy to offer a prayer, but again, since I was specifically excluded from doing so… *shrug*.|||I will pray for him. And you say you are praying for a miracle. That miracle maybe that he go to Glory to be with Jesus. If so then God will be right there with you to give you piece through the Holy Spirit. God Bless you and your family.|||Tell him to eat raw broccoli.|||In times like this–know that God is love–and the things that would cause a loss of faith can also give you new courage and hope–It is good to trust the Lord with someone you Love and know that God will do what is best for your dad. May you find rest in your search and know that Faith is the victory.

bless you, in Jesus name|||I hope it is ok with you if I pray for your family and all those who will be and are affected by this unfortunate situation. I, too have lost family to cancer, both my mother and father died of cancer, along with other family members and friends. and I have known a great many family members of mine who have died in my life while i was younger. I am not christian, i am pagan, but i used to be a catholic and i do sympathize with you and know what you are going through to some degree.|||i lost my father april 8th of this year.please take it from me make him comfortable at home and keep close to your reve 21:3,4 also also hold this thought In the Christian Greek Scriptures, the word “resurrection” occurs more than 40 times. It is translated from a Greek word that literally means “a standing up again.” The corresponding Hebrew expression means “revival of the dead.” After a person dies, what is resurrected? It cannot be the body, which decays and returns to the dust of the ground. What is resurrected is not the same body but the same person who died. Thus, resurrection involves the restoration of the life pattern of the individual—his personality traits, his personal history, and all the details of his identity.

Jehovah God, who is perfect in memory, has no problem remembering the life patterns of those who have died. (Isaiah 40:26) Since he is the Originator of life, Jehovah can readily bring back to life the same person in a newly formed body. (Psalm 36:9) Moreover, the Bible states that Jehovah God has “a yearning”—an earnest longing and desire—to resurrect the dead. (Job 14:14, 15) How glad we can be that not only is Jehovah able to bring a person back to life but he also wants to do it!

Jesus Christ too plays a key role in resurrecting the dead. A little over a year after beginning his ministry, Jesus said: “Just as the Father raises the dead up and makes them alive, so the Son also makes those alive whom he wants to.” (John 5:21) Does not the experience of Lazarus show that Jesus Christ has the power as well as the desire to resurrect the dead?

What about the idea that something inside us goes on living after death? The teaching of the resurrection and the idea of the immortality of the human soul or spirit are, in fact, incompatible. If something inside us survived death, what need would there be for a resurrection? Lazarus’ sister Martha did not believe that when her brother died, he continued to exist in a spirit realm. She had faith in the resurrection. When Jesus assured her: “Your brother will rise,” Martha said: “I know he will rise in the resurrection on the last day.” (John 11:23, 24) And when brought back to life, Lazarus did not relate any experiences of an afterlife. He had been dead. “As for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all,” states the Bible. “There is no work nor devising nor knowledge nor wisdom in Sheol [the common grave of mankind], the place to which you are going.”—Ecclesiastes 9:5, 10.

According to the Bible, then, the only remedy for death is the resurrection. But of the countless dead, who will be resurrected, and to where?

Who Will Be Resurrected?

“The hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear [Jesus’] voice and come out,” said Jesus. (John 5:28, 29) According to this promise, those in the memorial tombs—those who are in Jehovah’s memory—will be resurrected. The question, then, is, Of all those who have died, who actually are in God’s memory awaiting a resurrection?

The Bible book of Hebrews chapter 11 lists by name men and women who faithfully served God. They as well as those loyal servants of God who have died in recent years will be among the resurrected ones. What about people who failed to meet God’s standards of righteousness, perhaps because of a lack of knowledge? Are they also in God’s memory? Yes, many are, for the Bible promises: “There is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous.”—Acts 24:15.

However, not everyone who has ever lived will receive a resurrection. “If we practice sin willfully after having received the accurate knowledge of the truth,” states the Bible, “there is no longer any sacrifice for sins left, but there is a certain fearful expectation of judgment.” (Hebrews 10:26, 27) Some committed sins for which there is no forgiveness. They are not in Hades (mankind’s common grave) but in Gehenna, a symbolic place of eternal destruction. (Matthew 23:33) We must be careful, though, not to speculate on whether a certain person will be resurrected or not. This judgment belongs to God. He knows who is in Hades and who is in Gehenna. For our part, we do well to live our lives according to God’s will.|||According to Christians, god already knows what is going to happen. So, how would praying help change god%26#039;s mind.|||I will pray that God%26#039;s will be done, that he will bless you and your family with peace, and comfort you no matter what happens.

I am glad that you have faith, and understand that life after this one is so much better. I do not know how people who do not believe can cope.

Whatever the outcome, I hope that your father does not have to suffer and be in pain.

God Bless,

Tina

www.TheInternetBusinessSchool.com|||Of course I will pray for your dad. Also for you and your brother. God bless you. (I lost my dad to cancer two weeks ago. It%26#039;s a terrible loss, but God%26#039;s grace saw him and our family through it. I know He will do the same for your dad and you.)

on july 7th of last year my dad went in for sugary for prostate cancer.. they didnt get it all the cancer.. please pray his psa remains below 0 and his doctor appoitment march 5th of this year goes really good. thanks Lea|||I hope he gets better man. :):):)::):)|||Already done, but I%26#039;ll say another one for him tonight|||Done; God bless and good luck.|||Father God in the name of Jesus

We come before you this afternoon and ask you stretch out your might hand and touch this father.

We pray oh God that you will touch, heal and deliver this man from all forms of sickness and disease.

We pray God that you will have mercy on his body and that you will give him many more years of healthy pain free living.

We pray God for your will to be done in Jesus name,

Thank you God

Amen.|||praying for healing… and for peace for you and your family during this trial|||i will pray for him…prayer changes thing|||Blessings and prayers to your Dad and your entire family during this difficult time. God will hear the prayers for your Dad and hold him in His Loving Arms.|||God is a healer and I know this without a doubt. Your Dad is going to be fine. I%26#039;ve said a prayer for him. Don%26#039;t let doubt enter into your mind at any time. Whose report will we believe? We shall believe the report of the Lord. My Pastor was diagnosed with prostate cancer last year and is now cancer free. Since God is no respecter of person, what He did for my Pastor, He will do for your Dad.

My favorite scripture.

God is not man; He will not lie. god is not a human being; His decisions will not change. If the Lord says He will do something, then He will do it. If the Lord makes a promise, then He will do the thing He promised. Numbers 23:19 — Easy to read version.|||Yeah, I%26#039;ll pray for him.

But where was God before he got the cancer?

God clearly could have prevented it, but chose not to.

Who am I to ask Him to change His wonderful plan.

This is probably His way of challenging you, remember, what doesn%26#039;t kill your dad, only makes him stronger, so he must be stronger now than ever before, being on the brink of death and all.

Come to think of it… I%26#039;ll pass on the praying thingy… I don%26#039;t see it making any difference.|||Consider it done.

Blessings

Kait %26gt;%26lt;%26gt;|||of coarse. Cancer is horrible. This may seem weird but I%26#039;ll type a prayer for your dad. %26quot; Dear Lord, please be with Lea%26#039;s dad. please bless the doctors hands and I pray that they will be able to remove all the cancer. If anyone can do it you can Lord. I pray for a great, fast recovery, and that ever thing would work out. In Jesus%26#039;s name, Amen.%26quot; Good luck|||Of course. I will definitely be praying!

After 2,5 years of prostate cancer radiation, I am diagnosed of having both side effects mentioned above. I look for the treatment available|||i dont know but hope you get well

So I am gay. And in the closet.

So my step-dad had some sorta prostate cancer thing and he had to get a enema (sp?). My mom wen out and got it, and when she came home she showed it me and said basically %26quot;i think you will need to know about it%26quot;.

Isn%26#039;t this thing for anal sex?!

Why would she do this?|||long answer

I think my parents know that i am

or at least suspect

just this innate feeling

not that i do anything that would

suggest im gay

around them but my

mom once told me it would be

ok if i were gay and another time

said that being gay wasn%26#039;t a bad

thing and yet again said that she

hoped i would be happy for me with who

ever i ended up with %26quot;man or woman%26quot; and

has said these thing more than once

%26quot;although%26quot; not frequently

the person that would have a prblm

%26quot;my dad%26quot;

short answer

she might have been joking|||Despite anything she might have said, most parents know even before their kids know that they%26#039;re gay. She might have said it because she knows but she also might have said it because you could have a problem with your prostate one day.|||wow…she is crazy|||LOL an enema is to clean out his as* not for sex. she means incase you have a problem later or something.|||That%26#039;s bizarre and kinda gross - she does realize most men aren%26#039;t packing enemas, right? Maybe she was making some sort of a man/screening for prostate cancer type of comment?

But, that said, I agree with the other posters - most parents have at least some suspicion. I told my mother and she acted shocked, but she told me years later that she looked back on it and there were always things that were different. Unless you%26#039;re actively trying to conceal it (i.e. dating a girl), she probably wouldn%26#039;t be too surprised.

3 days ago my father is walking 3 miles everyday and Thursday he went to the hospital complaining of abdominal pains. He has found out in the hospital that his porstate cancer has spread to his liver and that he might only have a few months to live. His doctors had been treating his prostate cancer and it was under control for the last 10 years and everything was going well until this bomb hit. I am now his Power of attorney and I am the only family member he has left. I am married with a 10 month old and my wife is expecting twins in July. He was released from the hospital this morning and he is staying with me, my wife and our baby. He has like 10 different drugs that I have to manage for him to make sure he takes at the right time and he has his pain medicine. I didnt even know what a hospice was until yesterday when the doctor said he should have that care. Now I have to decide about in home hospice or let him go to his retirement home and have a nurse see him once a day. LifeSucks|||I work for a hospice as a nurse and my dad died from cancer. Life sure does suck sometimes. If I was in your shoes, the first thing I would do is come to some kind of acceptance that your life is gonna be out of balance for a while. It%26#039;s my experience that dying is always a mess. That%26#039;s the bad news. The good news is that with skilled hospice care, his symptoms can be managed and he can be kept physically comfortable. That being said, there is something I don%26#039;t understand about your scenario. You state that you have to decide where your father goes. Is your father, who was walking three miles a day three days ago, already so incapacitated that he cannot be involved in the decision making? Whether or not he is able to be involved in the decision making, your wife has to be involved, too. After all, it%26#039;s her house, too.

Don%26#039;t put off practical matters that may seem distasteful. For instance, discuss the appropriateness of a Do Not Resuscitate order with his physician and if you decide you want one, keep the document with your father. Make funeral arrangements. I know it sounds macabre, but knowing that things are taken care of will contribute greatly to both your and your father%26#039;s peace of mind.

You can have hospice involved wherever your father decides to stay. Use everything they have to offer. It%26#039;s not just nursing care. Even if you have no religious faith at all, a hospice chaplain can help you with some of the existential and spiritual problems that invariably come up and they never preach. Social workers have access to many resources that can help you and are skilled at brainstorming solutions to problems.

You have a lot on your plate. Don%26#039;t feel guilty if you can%26#039;t do everything. You%26#039;re going to have a lot of people and things competing for your time and energy. You%26#039;re not alone though, so take any help that is offered.

Enjoy your father in these last few days, weeks, or months you have with him. Laugh, cry and shoot the bull with him. Learn the things that he has yet to teach you.

Good luck, my friend.|||You%26#039;re right…it DOES suck.

Home hospice is pretty much what I%26#039;m doing, here; my husband has prostate cancer, diabetes, and Alzheimer%26#039;s. I have dedicated myself to his care, however long that might be.

But, it DOES suck, on so may levels, chief among which is watching the decline, day by day. It%26#039;s bitterly sad, as you know.

Here are your ugly choices: place him in a hospice, and feel ferocious guilt about it forever.

Care for him at home and feel guilt that you ever do anything except see to his bathing, medication, companionship, feeding, changing, and so on.

The truth is, we can%26#039;t win; whatever we do, it%26#039;s got (as I like to say) some rat in it.

You%26#039;re in a bad situation, having a young family which needs your love and attention as much as your dad does. Can you manage a home health-care worker a few times a week? It might be the difference between staying sane and total chaos.

I can%26#039;t imagine how awful this is for you, but you have my sympathy for your father%26#039;s illness, and my hopes that you will find a solution that, no matter how imperfect, you can live with.

My best wishes to you and your family.

-Victory.|||Hi. I am SO sorry to hear the bad news!!! I%26#039;ve lost just about everybody in my original family, and for me, it felt like someone just whacked me real hard in the stomach. I took Hospice Volunteers training about 5 years ago, but I haven%26#039;t pressed to get into it. But they are fantastic! They do everything for you. They give respite care in case you want to go out for awhile, you won%26#039;t feel guilty. They give financial advice, emotional support, discuss with the family issues that the family doesn%26#039;t understand, and they are there to provide %26quot;Grief Counseling%26quot; after their %26quot;friend%26quot; dies. I recommend them 100%. They really will make life easier. Again, I am really sorry. God is with you all.|||i do feel very sorry for you , you could keep home with you,but its hard work, for you with the baby and twins on the way.but the hospice is so wonderful,and very caring and your dad would have the best of care,thats what i would do ,but if you think you could care at home then keep him with you, all the very best to you .|||I%26#039;m really sorry to hear about your father.

Based upon his activity level - he doesn%26#039;t sound neccessarily appropriate for hospice at this time. Unless something happened in the hospital to severely reduce his energy and excercise tolerance?

It also sounds like your father is capable of managing his own meds, if he was able to walk 3 miles a day. However, to make things easier I suggest the following –%26gt; get a poster board (or large sheet of paper) and divide it into four columns for AM / LUNCH / PM / and BEDTIME - and make as many rows as you need for the medicines. With each medicine, list its brand and generic name, and what its used for. I usually put an x in the columns when each of the meds are supposed to be taken (you know, AM/Bedtime or whatever). Make a copy of the poster to carry with you to all appointments, and update it accordingly.

Pill boxes can also be very helpful.

Hospice is a wonderful organization. For people who want to be or are able to be at home, they can help by providing a visiting nurse (not 24hrs a day), a counselor (to help you deal with death/dying), and equipment to use in the home to help care for your father.

There are some inpatient hospices as well, which tend to be for people who are at the very end of life with intolerable pain, etc.

Each hospice has different services and requirements - I recommend calling around and seeing what works best for you, and what services your father might be eligible for as a part of medicaid.

Lastly, you need to have honest discussions with your father about what kind of care he wants. He should consider becoming a DNR - do not recussitate - otherwise he may spend the last days of his life in an ICU, costing thousands of dollars without making him better.

I know it seems overwhelming, especially with new babies coming, but it is for a limited time, and I assume your father deserves all your love and support during this time. Good luck to you - remember, hospice is there for the family as well as the patient.|||Yes, my father just passed away 12/22. He had a very rare disease called amyloidosis. He did not want to go to a rest home and I brought him home on hospice. Meds- I bought colored labels. I didn%26#039;t have the time to look at each bottle morning, noon, and nite. I had all 22 in a box with colored labels on top. Yellow for morning, red for afternoon, and blue for nite. If you use a pill box, it tends to get to mixed up with a lot of meds. They may also change as well (adds or deletes). The nurses came by, checked vitals and offered wonderful support. When pain gets really bad, they will get him liquid morphine and ativan. It won%26#039;t be pretty, but for me it was worth it. I was able to give him a huge gift by caring for him. I also got a notebook and a 3 hole punch to put all of his medical papers in so they were easily accessible. You need to know where all of his important papers are (deeds, loans, etc. ) Does he have a will and if so are you executor? If not, get one now. The banks will not talk to anyone until after the death certificates are in your hand. I%26#039;m still waiting on his. I can help you, if you would like. inkspotter2000@yahoo.com Sorry so jumbled. There is so much to tell you, but not here.

im in health class and i know that if guys masturbate too much that they might get prostate cancer. but what happens if girls masturbate too much? do their periods just completely stop forever?

my sister told me that when girls and guys masturbate, its normal. but when girls do it way too much, the clitoris sends a signal to the ovaries to stop sending eggs. is this true?|||Absolutely NONE of this is true, other than that masturbating is normal. I don%26#039;t know if your teacher taught you the thing about guys, but I would seriously consider their credentials if they are telling this to students. If you masturbate, it will NOT stop your period. All of these things are completely false. Ask your doctor if you still have questions about this.|||NO! absoutly not true !!!!!|||No!|||not entirely, instead of squirting out vaginal blood you squirt out little chocolate covered midgets

I HAVE JUST DECLARED WAR! STRIKE ONE IN EFFECT!

What would you do?

Here%26#039;s the situation. He%26#039;s addicted to oxycodone(perks),and has been addicted for a couple of years,now even worse,he%26#039;s an alcohic. Everyday pills and booze day after day,everyday,month,year was repeating it%26#039;s self,he had 2 back surgery%26#039;s,and prostate cancer at age 39 yrs old,and had it removed,and his mother died,I had no problem accepting no sex for the last 3 yrs,but for 3 yrs,no affection whatsoever,it%26#039;s like he lost everything so I must loose too,he made me feel like dying inside,he had given up.We have a 4 1/2 year old boy together,and just before he had his prostate removed we found out I was pregnant again,the boy is 5 now and the girl is 3 1/2 yrs old. I became cold towards him,and angry,he turned me (scorpio) into a Black Widowed Spider.I hated him for what has happened.He comes from a family with schizophrenia,drug abuse,alcohol abuse,mental problems,and I was seeing alot of mental problems starting at the end stages of our relationship,he was getting into porn,he worked for a place where they take care of mental patients (it%26#039;s true)and got fired for abusing one of them,he steals things whereever he goes,but one thing he loved his children they were his life,but he could only take care of them with a bottle in his mouth, He has never been abusive through the whole time we were together,I myself yes did attack him twice,one for getting me evicted,and second for me having to put my 2 dogs asleep,I had to deal with this all by myself.I kept kicking him out,and then allowing him back,then the last time was Christmas he came back,I was doing very well for the children and myself,I felt like living again and was so happy,I remained alone with the children,but let him back to try again,then it was like I felt like dying again,he new it was over,he did try,but the booze and pills still continued,I would look at him like I wanted to rip his head off,I stayed away from him so I went into my son%26#039;s room to clean it this was a couple of days after Christmas,he wasn%26#039;t working at that time I paid for everything,at this time he was going through about 7 days withdrawl from the pills,so he was drinking heavy,but whenever he drank,he%26#039;s a happy person,you would never know he just consumed 15 to 20 beers. It was the strangest things,I could never understand,and still can%26#039;t. He came down into my son%26#039;s bedroom with a diaper,I was working for hours in the house cleaning and then taking a 5 minute brake,he told me to change my daughter%26#039;s diaper,I looked at him and told him to do it himself,he took the diaper and shoved it into my mouth,I started kicking him and told him to get the f away from me,I got up and went into the kitchen,he followed me and through the bay wipes at me so I bent down to pick them up then while I was down he came in back of me and started to shove the baby wipes into my mouth.I couldn%26#039;t breath,I got away abit on my knees,and then he started kicking me,I turned and looked up and there he was kicking me with a smile on his face but he wasn%26#039;t the only one kicking me my 4 year old son was kicking me too,both were laughing,I looked at my son and said don%26#039;t do that to mommy,I got up,and he used the palms of his hands to hit me in the ribs and chest,I freaked out and started to fight back,my son at this time was at my feet laying on the floor,his father kept hitting me and I was falling on my son,trying not to fall on him,my son later said daddy was stepping on my hair,my son was pinned to the ground by his hair,my son got up and his nose was bleeding,I looked at my son but his father was in front of me blocking me with his hand,so I fought to get away,then I was some how on the ground again,and I couldn%26#039;t stop screaming,I went into shock,then I realized I had wet myself,I grabbed the counter to pull myself up,and went to help my son,I put him in my room,I grabbed the phone and he said he would kill me if i called the police,then he wasn%26#039;t there in the room,I tried the phone but there was no dial tone,so I proceded to the basement,and there he was moving away from the wall,he had unplugged the phone lines,so I kept trying til I could get them back on,and i did, so I called his father crying and told him what has happened,and to get his son out of my house,and he replied he wasn%26#039;t going to do that,and for me to call the police,but I knew i couldn%26#039;t.I also called my sister.He listened to my phone calls,after I grabed the phone and a knife and went to my room where both my children were now sleeping.I locked my door and stayed awake all night afraid,he didn%26#039;t come near me,I knew had to leave early in the morning for an appointment so I waited and when he left around 6 or7 am,I came out of my room and locked all the doors,now I knew I had him out and if he did try to re enter it would be break and enter and I would have called the police,on Jan 12 we heard from him again,he threatened me if I call the police, and we haven%26#039;t heard from him yet,that same day I checked all windows in the house to make sure they were all locked,the basement windows have boards and thing up in front of them and I found 3 windows unlocked,I new it was him,and the boards and things were placed back,I keep my children with me everynight, I%26#039;m afraid,I don%26#039;t sleep at night I protect the house,I wait for the sun to come up then I rest,I%26#039;m tired,hurt,exausted,the pain from the attack was bad I had problems breathing my ribs ad chest hurt so bad,it took a month to heal,the children I keep very busy,and happy.I am ready to go to the police station and report him,but it%26#039;s been a month,no doctor records,but I did take pictures of the bruises.I told my son what his father has done is very bad,and that was the end of the story. He will never see his son again,nor does he care,no financial help at all. LOVE AND WAR!|||Go to the police. Get help. Seek a protective order. GET OUT!!!|||Repost this question, MUCH shorter, cuz I aint readin all that!|||It%26#039;s really time to get away from him…this is really not healthy. For anyone. Do you want to keep reliving this experience or would you prefer to be drama free? Think on it…he%26#039;s not changing.|||You are crazy yourself to bring such a story to horoscopes!!! Why? and why call it love and war? like some kind of drama soap opera? You needed to call the cops right then and there… F* him and his threats!! Your children come first and for your son to join his dad, there%26#039;s wrong msgs going on there, there are no boundaries… you need a whole new life, you%26#039;re living in hell

The left brings up the issue of national healthcare supposedly to improve the lives of those who cant afford it. Yet, no one has actually studied what the effects will be on our economy. Let us compare the stats between Canada, Europe, and the U.S.

- For Leukemia, American survival rate is 50% while European is 35%

- Survival rate for prostate cancer 81.2% but is 61.7% in France and 44% in England

- Waiting time for an MRI or Breast cancer screening will be four times longer

-Even in Canda, many are turning to private sectors and rejecting universal healthcare

It is clear that universal healthcare will only hurt Americans and it won%26#039;t help at all the working class. Universal healthcare isn%26#039;t feasible and trying to implement it will only bring about calamities we won%26#039;t imagine. Can%26#039;t we all agree is bad?

http://www.city-journal.org/html/17_3_ca…|||There are issues with our current system- primarily with the insurance end and government involvement. Having said that the answer is not government run health care which would bbe far worse just like everything a government touches. Insurance premiums vary greatly from one state to another because each state has its own rules and mandates they place on insurance policies. In one state you can get coverage for one person for $100/mth and in another it could be $400/mth. Government mandates on isurance policies make these differences occur. Also ridiculous malpractice awards drive up malpractice insurance rates which nearlt cripple doctors. We can fix these problems but the left has no interest in looking at the actual problems because they simply want government control.

Also there are not 47 million uninsured- there are far less. The number looks to be more like less than 9 million who cannot afford insurance but also do not qualify for government insurance programs. The 47 million is a red herring used to distract from the real issues and to get more people to blindly follow into government run health care.|||Agreed. Our current system sucks, but the government taking it over would only make it worse.

Another point to this argument is things that people knowingly do to themselves. Namely smoking and overeating. If someone smokes or eats too much and gets sick from it, why should I have to pay? The utter notion that I am somehow responsible for something that someone else does to themself is ridiculous.|||How would you improve our system? Did you forget that there are 47million Americans who are uninsured and cannot afford even a flue shot?|||I agree it is bad…even going past economics, the health care proposed by The Dems, are a blatant invasions of privacy as well. They want to dictate WHEN we go to the doctor as well and call it preventative…I am an adult and will make those decisions myself.|||Maybe we can put Mayor Ray Nagin in charge of the system.|||No it cannot. We have the best health care in the world. While there are issues and problems, they will never be solved by letting the government get their greedy incompetents hands on it. In fact, it should be avoided at all costs.|||I am one of the uninsured and I would rather see it stay private. Anyone that thinks service and prices will drop if it is government controlled needs to stop going to Disneyland so much. lol. Thanks for the question and have a great day!|||As a person over 65, I enjoy the benefits of medicare (free health care). People on welfare get good service too. That%26#039;s one reason they don%26#039;t get jobs…they would lose the free health care.

Israel seems to enjoy their program and American tax payers foot the bill.

As far as your statistics go, they are bogus. According to our own government%26#039;s statistics go, America ranks just below Cuba in heath care.|||It is clear that if 1 child dies for the lack of their being able to afford health care, that it is worth it.

Why do you want children to die?

Politicians all receive health care free at the expense of the government, why are they the only ones?|||The left will say whatever you want to hear, just to gain a vote, then drop you like a hot rock when they%26#039;re done with you, just like they did to Cindy Sheehan.

First of all, Univ. Healthcare is NOT free. It%26#039;s paid for by HUGE taxes. Just ask anyone that lives outside of this country. That%26#039;s a proven fact.

Second, if the Govt. was responsible for paying the doctors, what quality of Dr. do you think we%26#039;d have? Like anyone else, Dr.%26#039;s are in it for the money, and the Govt won%26#039;t pay them what they%26#039;re worth, or what they make now in the FREE ENTERPRISE SOCIETY that is the United States. Therefore, if there is no incentive for the Dr.%26#039;s to learn more or become better at what they do, who would want to become a Dr., and what kind of quality care would we have? You get what you pay for.

Third, in all of those country%26#039;s that have Univ. Healthcare, how long do you think they wait for knee replacements, organ transplants, etc? Ask a Canadian. Why do you think they come down here for that sort of stuff?

Fourth, have you ever gone to motor vehicles to renew your license? Doesn%26#039;t that suck? Imagine the Dr. office being like that. In fact, it would be like going to a free clinic where you take a number and wait all day for your turn.

Believe me, there is NOTHING good about Universal Healthcare, no matter what the Dems %26amp; Libs want you to hear.